Did you know that October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month?
I'm guessing you didn't.
Because I didn't know it existed before I lost a baby.
In fact, I may be so bold as to say it gets entirely overlooked due to Breast Cancer Awareness month. Don't get me wrong, that is an equally important issue to be discussed, but I'm just saying, it's overlooked.
Lately, I've been thinking a lot about how much miscarriage, and any loss really, is overlooked in our society. I think it's for a number of reasons, really. I find that it is uncomfortable for people to talk about, I think women want to forget that it happened to them, and I think, as a general rule, people are uncomfortable talking about death, in any capacity.
Maybe I've been thinking about it because it's awareness month, or maybe it's because recently I sat in Applebees with a friend who said goodbye to her two precious twin boys at 21 weeks in June and we had lunch together on her due date, and I listened to her talk with tears in her eyes about how much she misses them; how much she's changed. Or maybe it's because we went to church on Sunday and our speaker shared with us how she lost a child at 3 months old due to a muscle disorder.
I'm really just processing all of this right now, but I can't help but feel like maybe, just maybe, I'm supposed to do something about it. I don't even know what that is, nor do I have any idea how that would look fleshed out. I'm thinking about it all, trying to figure out where my place is in this, but I can't get the gut feeling out of my mind that maybe there is a place for me here, a way that I can help other women come through this journey and draw closer to Jesus through it all.
I just can't understand how something so common can be so overlooked. 1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage.
1 in 4.